A blog reader sent this heartbreaking true life story of a member of her Alumni who died from domestic violence. . For privacy reason, the photo of the deceased was left out...
As I am typing this She is laying peacefully in her grave She was laid to rest today 23rd may at
exactly 10am. I am in tears I know this lady very well and its very unfortunate she left the marriage in death....
All the people telling her to stay and save her marriage are the same people saying she should have left the marriage, they are blaming her now because she is gone and can't do or say anything...
This is a true story. I know her very well The last time we discussed was the day I went to advertise my handbags to her, I told her no man is worth dying for ,I told her to take a walk but she maintained that the man would change that people told her to put him in prayers. See where it landed her. She was just 32 She was pretty She left her job in unilever because hubby
Everyone around them saw it and now she is gone ,they are blaming her for not taking a
walk. Everyone knew about it The physical/verbal abuse. The public embarrassment and all.
He beats her anywhere and anytime He beats her in the presence of his boys and
sometimes in front of customers. A week before her death,I saw her inside the market with a red face and a swollen eye, five(hand) marks were very visible on her pretty face.
If he tells her to prepare egusi soup for him, when he comes home, he would tell her he is no longer interested in egusi, that he wants ogbono, the next day you will see her walking up and down inside the market looking for the best ogbono, the best stockfish, the best dryfish and the most clean ugu to buy all because she wants to please hubby, we buy soup things from the same woman in the market, the woman have jokingly asked her one day""na everyday you dey cook soup"" her reply was ""na so my Oga want am ooo""that woman have not been herself since she heard about the lady's death.
She dares not talk to anybody when hubby is around , whether male or female unless the person is a customer and she is attending to him or her,the day she entertained me in their shop was the day hubby travelled,if he was in town, Dem no born her well.
He cheated on her with the girls that worked in a saloon close to their shop ,she stopped warning them because the more she warned them ,the more her husband glued to them,her warning those girls made him worse and always fetched her sound beating. This lady worships the ground her husband walks on, I keep wondering why he treated her like trash.
When the news of her death was broken to us that fateful day in may 7th 2015, it didn't come as a surprise because we all know with the way he treated her, she wouldn't last in the marriage.
May her soul rest in peace.
If you are among the people that tell abused wives to pray and show their husband love,to cook his favorite meals and to dress sexy, just know you are an evil person. If you are among the people that brainwash poor women that divorce is a sin , that marriage is for better for worse, I put it to you that you are a beast, IF YOU ARE PREACHING GOD HATES DIVORCE, DONT FOR GET HE HATES BATTERY TOO.
If you are a woman going through domestic violence and you are still hanging in there
with hope that he will change , rest in peace to you in advance.
If you are there deceiving yourself that you are staying because of your kids, sorry for you, when he kills you, your kids will still be here and their lives must continue without you ,this lady has a daughter and the girl is alive.
Stop giving silly excuses to remain in an abusive marriage. If you are a single lady and your boyfriend beats you today, apologise tomorrow, and you are already used to it and you see it as normal, I feel very sorry for you. Single ladies, don't bow to pressure from friends or family and end up with a beast. A lot of women are looking for ways to come out, don't be in a haste to go in. Marriage is not the greatest achievement in life.
Copyright,Ifeoma Lawal ©©2015
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